Start Where You Are

Like any journey in life, the environmental/eco-conscious one is definitely one that must be approached with a Start-Where-You-Are mentality.  It’s easy to get overwhelmed in the eco-conscious world.  At least, for me it is.  I try to stop and remember all the cliche sayings —  One step at a time.  Little by little one travels far.  Small actions over time can make a big difference…  Start where you are.

The thing is, we’ve all come from very different backgrounds and households.  Some of us may have been introduced to clean and conscious living at a young age and some of us are just stepping on board.  But in this information age we live in, the amount environmental causes out there is staggering.  Once you start to become conscious of where your products come from and what their afterlife is, and it’s difficult to go back.  Suddenly you’re thinking about your food’s packaging and where your shoes will go once they’re worn out and how many steps it takes to get your magazines to you and the enormous amount of toothpaste tubes we, as humans, use.  This is not to say being eco-conscious means a life of giving these things up, just making smarter and more conscious choices.

But change can be tough.  Even when we want to change, our human nature gets defensive and resistant to the idea.  And since there’s SO much out there that needs to be changed, it sometimes seems easier to just keep the status quo and forget the whole thing.

But our actions DO matter.  And the little things will add up.  It might be tricky to know where to start, and it’s hard to take other people’s advice on this since nobody lives the same way or is starting from the same place.  But, I think if you can pause and close your eyes and think of something that’s been irking you, even the slightest bit.  Maybe you’ve started thinking about all those plastic water bottles you go through every month or the amount of packaging involved in getting fast food take-out.  Maybe you’re bugged by little, cheap, broken toys you end up throwing away or the amount of gas you end up using in your commute.  Whatever it might be, from extravagant vacations to small, plastic floss containers, we all have at least a little idea of an area we might be able to shift our actions for the better.

The comparison game is an easy one to get lost in and not one that belongs if we’re going to join together for this cause.  I would say that in my usual circles, I’m probably the most eco-conscious one.  But last year, when I started going to a local group’s meetings about reducing waste in the community, I suddenly found myself playing the comparison game.  And not in a I’m-doing-so-much-more kind of way, but in a I’m-not-doing-nearly-enough-as-these-people way.  Not that anyone in this very kind and inclusive group was putting out this vibe, it was just my own mind playing tricks with me.  While I could have been celebrating being around a group who was standing up for the change I want to see and learning from their wisdom, I was using it to put unneeded, extra pressure on myself instead.

Like anything in life, I think it’s important to pause and celebrate our own progress.  It might not be the same as our friends’ or even where our self-critical mind thinks we “should” be, but it’s key to look back and recognize our accomplishments.  To be proud of the efforts we’ve taken and the hurdles we’ve overcome.

…Which is not to say that our journey stops there.  If we are really going to help our planet, we all need to come together and continue making eco-conscious choices in our lives.  But, it’s ok to not know everything all at once.  To not dive in and be picture-perfect, zero-waste role models right from Day One.  Our actions can and will make a difference, even the small ones, from wherever we’re starting.

Amira

Amira Willighagen in Venice

I’m a complete sucker for music that moves people and brings people together.  For decades I’ve cried tears of pure joy when people get up and sing the National Anthem.  When I was a young child obsessed with The Beatles, I knew I was experiencing magic when watching videos of them perform.  And now, looking back, I don’t even know if it was their music so much as the way it affected people.  But, I guess that’s really one and the same though, isn’t it?

I stumbled across Amira Willighagen in the most random of ways on the YouTube.  And while she’s been well-known throughout the world for many years now, I just fell in love with her.  In the past, especially as a former music major, I feel like I’ve been surrounded by people who are cynical of young musical prodigies.  Arguments abound as to why these young children shouldn’t be doing this.  Sometimes it’s concern for their vocal cords or for their emotional well-being.  Maybe it’s the argument that they shouldn’t be singing about the big things of life before they’ve experienced them.  And while perhaps some of these arguments might hold some validity, I think these mostly stem from places of jealousy.  And my older self sees that these young musicians are actually (often) much closer to a more spiritual and pure place than most adults.  They can connect to the Other World that is music in a much more natural way.  So, I say Huzzah to that.

But, wow.  This video.  Are you kidding me?!  A gorgeous, picture-perfect evening in Venice.  Audience members dressed in their best and members of the orchestra and choir dressed in actual ball gowns!  Oh, my heart.  And then this beautiful, calm angel walking onto the stage, in a dress that I would freely wear every single day if I could, sings the lovely O Mio Babbino Caro.  Oh, how I love this song.  I don’t really care what the translation is or if a 10-year old “should” or “shouldn’t” sing it.

But one of my favorite parts, always, is watching people’s reactions.  I can’t help but swell with a love for humankind when people connect over a shared experience like this.  Wiping away tears or gasping with amazement.  Closing their eyes in pure peace and joy.  (By the way, I realize a camera would never ever show a close-up of me at something like this, as I would be a mess of sobbing tears mixed with slightly psychotic laughter at the sheer beauty of it all.)  Anyway, give a pause and watch this.  Seriously magical.

(And I don’t often scroll through comments, but I did a little bit and fell in love with this one–“Does God know he’s missing an angel?”)

Programming with Purpose

This is an amazing keynote talk my friend Ish gave in 2019 at Swiftfest Boston.  Swiftfest is a conference for iOS developers, but this isn’t a talk about formulas and code.  It’s a talk about Life and Goodness.  About breaking out of boundaries and fears and taking steps towards following our dreams.  It’s about enjoying life’s moments and not taking our loved ones for granted.  It’s about the actions we take that can change people’s lives.  And it’s about finding our purpose.

I know that in our rush society, people seem to want short snippets of videos and audio while they’re going about their days, so 25 minutes is an investment.  But–if I may–you owe it to yourself to watch this.  If you notice the tags below, this video covers just about everything.  (The original talk isn’t allowed to be posted, so I’m beyond grateful Ish has put this together.)

Ish has a way of speaking and thinking that puts people at ease and helps them tap into their true selves.  Even before I became close friends with him, he’d ask me how I was doing in such a sincere way, that I always stopped in my tracks to truly reflect and consider how I was, instead of resorting to the automatic, “Fine. And you?”.  He’s the guy people meet for the first time and feel like they’ve known forever.  People open up to him with stories and questions and conflicts and joys, because he really listens without judgement or assumption.  He helps people through their problems, not by giving advice, but by listening to what they say and holding the space for them to find their own conclusions.  I can say with absolute certainty, I would not be where I am today without him.

I realize I’ve digressed a bit, but I wanted to take a moment to share a little bit about Ish, because I am hoping it will inspire you to take a pause and watch this video.  A beautiful reminder about what is good in life and how we can help make it even better, just by being ourselves.

Food Gifts

I remember once reading an article about a young woman who baked a mini birthday cake for each of her friends and family members on their birthdays.  I wanted to be that person, baking little tiny cakes and helping people celebrate their special day with a surprise treat.

Well, that never happened, but that doesn’t change how much I love food gifts!  As a gifter, they’re a great, low-pressure choice, and as a recipient, I love that they are, quite literally, consumable and don’t add to any clutter.

I have a soft spot for homemade food gifts, for environmental reasons and that added personal touch, but I’ve also been the happy recipient and proud sender of store-bought items as well.  There are zillions of ideas on food gifts anywhere you look, but here are just a handful that have worked well for me:

-Cocoa Mix

-Granola

-Chocolate Chip Cookies or Oatmeal Choc. Chip Cookies

-Brownies

-Homemade Vanilla Extract

-Homemade Oreos

-Mochi Muffins

-Bread (homemade or from a local bakery)

-Local delivery (It’s sometimes easier than I realize to set up a local delivery from long-distance.  I once came home to a cooler of local mini cheesecakes on our doorstep for my birthday, sent from my sister’s family a state away.)

-Food baskets!  (My personal favorite.  I love a collection of fun, snacky foods, whether homemade or local treats or store-bought favorites.  There’s something about seeing them all together, collected by someone who knows what you like that is truly special.)

-A collection of favorite snack foods  (Somewhat redundant, I know, but food collections are so rad I had to give them two entries.)  (After giving birth to my first baby, my sister sent me a whole package of baby-sized/mini-sized snack foods.  I still remember how wonderful they all tasted (New mamas are HUNGRY!).  So, I definitely don’t discount the awesomeness of well-chosen store-bought foods, especially favorites or unique items)

 

Sometimes the toughest part for me is figuring out how to package items, since I am an environmental over-thinker.  If I’m mailing a food item and sending it Priority where the weight doesn’t matter, I love reusing cleaned-out glass jars for items.  But a well-cleaned plastic container could definitely work too.  In fact, I try to keep a stash of empty jars and containers on hand for just such an occasion.

If I’m sending cookies or granola in the mail, I like to make them ahead of time and freeze for a few days to give them a bit more time, just in case.  (It’s always good to have cookies in the freezer anyway for last-minute food gifts or for rainy days.)  And then, of course, there are definitely items that won’t send well in the mail but that are great for local deliveries or gift giving.

Food gifts shine for pretty much any occasion–birthdays, new babies, break-ups, illness, graduations, anniversaries, loss, apologies, and my favorite–just because.

 

Mochi Muffins

Mochi Muffins

I fell in love with mochi muffins last summer when we moved and discovered a wonderful little coffee shop in town that serves these amazing chewy treats.  We do our best to support this local shop, especially these days, but at some point in pre-Covid days, I went in search of a homemade recipe so we wouldn’t go broke on mochi muffins.  This recipe is spot on, and I’m excited to explore the creator’s site more (FINALLY, a recipe source without annoying pop-up ads every two seconds!)  She suggests sprinkling them with black and white sesame seeds, which is truly delicious.  But, sometimes, when I’m feeling especially decadent, I’ll make part of the batch with chocolate chips mixed in, and Oh, My!  Wow.  These freeze really well, and they’re perfect for a 3pm teatime treat on a whim.

The sweet rice flour is sometimes hard to come by, and I have finally researched and see that you should NOT try to replace the sweet rice flour with regular rice flour.  Good to know.  If I remember correctly, the black sesame seeds were a bit more than I expected, even in our bulk section, but the look and flavor are worth it.

If you haven’t tried mochi muffins, I highly recommend giving them a try.  Their chewy texture and sweet flavor is completely unique and absolutely delicious!