The Memory Box – A Book About Grief

The Memory Box: A Book About Grief
2017
by Joanna Rowland
Illustrations by Thea Baker

When our daughter was young and her grandmother passed away, I scoured the Internet and library for resources and books to help guide her (and us) through.  And while I did find some very helpful books, I would have taken more.  I wish we had had this book then.  The unfortunate part is that there will always be loss and grief and times when a book like this is needed.  The comforting part is that talented people like this author and illustrator have created a book like this to help.

I love that this book talks about the realities of this child’s grief.  It doesn’t get into any details about who the child has lost or what happened.  It’s told in the first person, so while the illustrations are of a young white girl, the “I” point of view can hopefully translate.  I appreciate that the child admits that there are happy days and sad days.  That there are times she’s worried she’ll forget the person she loves so much.  She talks about making a special box to keep memories of her time with her loved one.  But she also adds new memories to the box of things she would have like to have shared with that person.

I love the book, and I love the idea of a memory box.  Very well done.  A beautiful picture book to read anytime, and a valuable resource for when it’s needed.

 

Chester van Chime Who Forgot How to Rhyme

2022
words by Avery Monsen
pictures by Abby Hanlon

This is a great book for teaching rhyming, but it’s also just a darling read.  Chester van Chime spends his day forgetting how to rhyme.  So, for each set up, there’s a silly alternate word instead of the expected rhyming one.

He walked past the butcher and walked past the baker.  
He passed Mr. Waxler, the candlestick…guy.

The kids get such a kick out of these missed rhyming opportunities and the friendly fox who always seems to be pointing to the correct ending.  The accompanying illustrations are so clever.  In the background of what’s going on in the story, you can spot many fun rhyming pictures – a troll holding a bowl, a whale on a pail, etc.  This book is definitely getting promoted from library copy to one on our shelf.

Life Skills

Life Skills (2021)
by Keilly Swift

This gem of a book teaches life skills like critical thinking, problem solving, communication, dealing with feelings, and so much more.  Each page is a beautiful map of engaging pictures and text, as well as many interactive ideas.

Full disclosure: I have not read this entire book.  It is chock-full of amazing material on each page that can be enjoyed and absorbed over and over.  This book is directed towards children, but my desire to own this book is not only for my kids, but for ME.  Reading these life skills laid out so openly and approachable is such a gift to the readers of this book.  This seems like a great book for kids in their pre-teen years, but it could easily be an interactive read with youngers, or as I mentioned, an enjoyable read for teens and adults as well.  The world needs more books like this!  I cannot praise it enough.

Little Red Gliding Hood

Little Red Gliding Hood (2015)
written by Tara Lazar
illustrated by Troy Cummings

This picture book is a playful visit to the land of fairy tale and nursery rhyme characters.  Little Red’s ice skates aren’t looking so good anymore, and she’d like to win the brand-new skates offered as a prize at the skating competition.  The only problem is – slippery slush! – she doesn’t have a skating partner.  Everybody seems to have already paired up – the dish with the spoon, Bo Peep with her sheep, and so on.  Turns out the Big Bad Wolf is also looking for a partner, and he’s really a not-so-bad wolf after all.  We love the cute references to different fairy tales and nursery rhymes hidden in the story and pictures of this book.  A fun picture book to read and see!

The Value of Picture Books

Picture books haven’t always been such a big part of my life.  Sure, I remember the picture books that cropped up here and there in my young adulthood as ones with “bigger” messages for adults too —Oh, the Places You’ll Go, Hope for the Flowers, etc.– but even though children’s chapter books have been a love of mine throughout my life, I didn’t give picture books the place they deserved on my shelf until having children.  Here’s the thing:  Without mentioning specific ones, there are some REALLY not-so-great picture books.  There was a time when I thought picture books were somewhat interchangeable–that reading was the important part, but that these “temporary” books were just for babies and young kids.

Wow, was I wrong.  There are SO many gorgeous children’s books!  Beautiful stories and illustrations that I’m proud to have on our shelves and have no intention of downsizing when my kids are older.  My oldest is at the stage where reading chapter books at bedtime has been the norm for awhile.  And her younger brother is actually quite engaged by read-aloud chapter books as well.  But I still make a conscious choice to pause between chapter books every once in awhile and make sure we’re getting a good dose of picture books too.  Not that we don’t read these during the day, but I think it’s important to give them that sacred, snuggle-in-bed place as well.

Picture books beg to be read out loud, regardless of age.  I love listening to my husband read to the kids or hear Story Time librarians read to their circles of young library visitors.  Picture books lend themselves well to rhythm and humor and Life messages cleverly hidden in a concise and beautiful story.  In hearing the pacing and timing of these picture books, children learn much more than if they’re left to only read on their own.  Just because a child can read on their own doesn’t mean that read-alouds should be dropped.  And, as much as I love the ability to imagine the scenes of a chapter book, the illustrations of a really great picture book provide so much to the story and its readers.  I’ve often heard that writing picture books is far more challenging than writing other books.  To be able to tell your story and share your message in such a limited space?  It makes sense.  And the vocabulary?  I once tried to re-learn Spanish by checking out Spanish picture books from the library.  Even with the aid of a fluent speaker, we couldn’t make out many of the words.  Picture books–good ones– are rich in beautiful, new words.

When I worked at a school library, I used to cringe that students seemed to only be reading for “points” in their reward system.  They’d aim for longer and longer books that held more points for them.  It saddened me to see so many wonderful, shorter, “simpler” books go ignored.  Another thing I’d hear in my time working at schools was teachers telling students that a book was “below their level” and they had to read something else.  How can we expect to foster a love of reading when we can’t let children read what they would like?  I almost exclusively read children’s or young adult –or PICTURE!– books; this doesn’t mean I can’t read anything beyond these.  But these are the stories that grab me, that entertain me, that bring me joy and tears and a desire to read more.

Picture books – the good ones- are powerful and beautiful.  They aren’t just for the non-readers or early readers.  Those who don’t know this yet haven’t had the pleasure of a really great picture book.  I’m tired of the competitiveness of our society.  Children, and (let’s face it, mostly) parents, want bragging rights.  Having a child read long books at a young age has become some sort of strange milestone to boast about on social media.  Reading long books at a young age that a child can’t relate to yet sounds empty.  Connecting to a book (no matter the length or level), growing a love of reading and books (yes, even wordless ones!), being able to appreciate the subtleties of language and illustrations– THAT to me is the foundation for a reader.  We, as a society, need to discover and embrace the precious picture books that authors and illustrators have gifted us.  Not just for our children, but for all of us.

 

“With the popularity of e-books and DVDs and the push toward early chapter books, then the still-thicker books that follow, we may not realize that traditional picture books are endangered. They are. Publishers won’t keep publishing what there’s no market for. Which means that what picture books offer children–something they get no other way–is endangered, too.”  – Mary Lyn Ray

See this article by Mary Lyn Ray