Start Where You Are

Like any journey in life, the environmental/eco-conscious one is definitely one that must be approached with a Start-Where-You-Are mentality.  It’s easy to get overwhelmed in the eco-conscious world.  At least, for me it is.  I try to stop and remember all the cliche sayings —  One step at a time.  Little by little one travels far.  Small actions over time can make a big difference…  Start where you are.

The thing is, we’ve all come from very different backgrounds and households.  Some of us may have been introduced to clean and conscious living at a young age and some of us are just stepping on board.  But in this information age we live in, the amount environmental causes out there is staggering.  Once you start to become conscious of where your products come from and what their afterlife is, and it’s difficult to go back.  Suddenly you’re thinking about your food’s packaging and where your shoes will go once they’re worn out and how many steps it takes to get your magazines to you and the enormous amount of toothpaste tubes we, as humans, use.  This is not to say being eco-conscious means a life of giving these things up, just making smarter and more conscious choices.

But change can be tough.  Even when we want to change, our human nature gets defensive and resistant to the idea.  And since there’s SO much out there that needs to be changed, it sometimes seems easier to just keep the status quo and forget the whole thing.

But our actions DO matter.  And the little things will add up.  It might be tricky to know where to start, and it’s hard to take other people’s advice on this since nobody lives the same way or is starting from the same place.  But, I think if you can pause and close your eyes and think of something that’s been irking you, even the slightest bit.  Maybe you’ve started thinking about all those plastic water bottles you go through every month or the amount of packaging involved in getting fast food take-out.  Maybe you’re bugged by little, cheap, broken toys you end up throwing away or the amount of gas you end up using in your commute.  Whatever it might be, from extravagant vacations to small, plastic floss containers, we all have at least a little idea of an area we might be able to shift our actions for the better.

The comparison game is an easy one to get lost in and not one that belongs if we’re going to join together for this cause.  I would say that in my usual circles, I’m probably the most eco-conscious one.  But last year, when I started going to a local group’s meetings about reducing waste in the community, I suddenly found myself playing the comparison game.  And not in a I’m-doing-so-much-more kind of way, but in a I’m-not-doing-nearly-enough-as-these-people way.  Not that anyone in this very kind and inclusive group was putting out this vibe, it was just my own mind playing tricks with me.  While I could have been celebrating being around a group who was standing up for the change I want to see and learning from their wisdom, I was using it to put unneeded, extra pressure on myself instead.

Like anything in life, I think it’s important to pause and celebrate our own progress.  It might not be the same as our friends’ or even where our self-critical mind thinks we “should” be, but it’s key to look back and recognize our accomplishments.  To be proud of the efforts we’ve taken and the hurdles we’ve overcome.

…Which is not to say that our journey stops there.  If we are really going to help our planet, we all need to come together and continue making eco-conscious choices in our lives.  But, it’s ok to not know everything all at once.  To not dive in and be picture-perfect, zero-waste role models right from Day One.  Our actions can and will make a difference, even the small ones, from wherever we’re starting.

Programming with Purpose

This is an amazing keynote talk my friend Ish gave in 2019 at Swiftfest Boston.  Swiftfest is a conference for iOS developers, but this isn’t a talk about formulas and code.  It’s a talk about Life and Goodness.  About breaking out of boundaries and fears and taking steps towards following our dreams.  It’s about enjoying life’s moments and not taking our loved ones for granted.  It’s about the actions we take that can change people’s lives.  And it’s about finding our purpose.

I know that in our rush society, people seem to want short snippets of videos and audio while they’re going about their days, so 25 minutes is an investment.  But–if I may–you owe it to yourself to watch this.  If you notice the tags below, this video covers just about everything.  (The original talk isn’t allowed to be posted, so I’m beyond grateful Ish has put this together.)

Ish has a way of speaking and thinking that puts people at ease and helps them tap into their true selves.  Even before I became close friends with him, he’d ask me how I was doing in such a sincere way, that I always stopped in my tracks to truly reflect and consider how I was, instead of resorting to the automatic, “Fine. And you?”.  He’s the guy people meet for the first time and feel like they’ve known forever.  People open up to him with stories and questions and conflicts and joys, because he really listens without judgement or assumption.  He helps people through their problems, not by giving advice, but by listening to what they say and holding the space for them to find their own conclusions.  I can say with absolute certainty, I would not be where I am today without him.

I realize I’ve digressed a bit, but I wanted to take a moment to share a little bit about Ish, because I am hoping it will inspire you to take a pause and watch this video.  A beautiful reminder about what is good in life and how we can help make it even better, just by being ourselves.

Food for Thought

I still remember reading Barbara Kingsolver’s Animal, Vegetable, Miracle for the first time and reading about her stance on bananas. I quite agree with Ms. Kingsolver about being conscious how far our food travels and being willing to put our foot down about certain foods whose negative environmental impact is just too large to ignore. Buuut, then I had kids. And a zillion and half other things to worry about, and bananas crept back into our kitchen, along with various other foods.

I do my best to reduce food waste. I’m definitely more conscious about food packaging at this point than the food itself. So, I bring my own containers to restaurants for leftovers and we use Pyrex containers at home for everything, instead of plastic baggies. I do my best to make food from scratch. We buy organic, mostly. But, I would say my awareness about food and where it’s come from and its environmental impact, is something I really would like to know more about.  I’m far from perfect in the impact-my-food-has-on-the-enviroment department, but all I can offer is my best. And my best right now, is to appreciate the food we use and not waste it. To slowly journey into discovering which foods we might want to steer away from because of their environmental impact. And to share as I’m learning.

This section is devoted to my exploration in reducing food waste, reducing food packaging waste, and sharing ideas for making more meals at home.

Thank you for being here.  Your actions can and will make a difference.

Holiday Questions

As we roll into the last month of this year, I have to admit that my first temptation was to have a post about gifts. And, while I would still like to do that, I stopped myself and realized how strange it is that our holiday season has become so centered around this.

Now, honestly, as much as I’m a fan of reducing unnecessary consumption and waste, I really do love the idea of holiday gift giving. I think there’s a lot of good behind the idea of wanting to show our appreciation of others through giving gifts and recognizing our own part in others’ lives by receiving gifts. But, it seems like the idea behind why we exchange gifts has almost gotten lost. I feel the holidays have become a whirlwind of shopping and lists and obligations. Many of us are going through the motions and doing the holiday “thing” out of habit or a life checklist of sorts.

So, I wanted to pause and think about what the holidays really mean. I know, upon reflection, this answer will be different for everyone. It might be about family or religion or forgiveness. It could be about endings and beginnings as the year comes to a close. It could be about the importance of quiet reflection or finding joy in the moment. But, much like the Whos down in Whoville, I know that the holiday season—for whatever it is you’re celebrating this month—is about more than gifts and feasts. So, while I don’t disagree with many of the traditions behind this month, I do think it’s important to pause and remember just why it is we’re doing them.

Thanks for listening!

The Tricky Parts of Trick-or-Treating

I’ve been out of the trick-or-treating loop for awhile. In my pre-parenting days, I didn’t really think much about it, and then once our kids were born, we lived somewhere that wasn’t really set up for trick-or-treating, and we didn’t want our kids having candy anyway. But, now with the kids a bit older and living in a bigger city, there’s little way to escape the event.

And, being the type that I am, I can’t help but feel a bit overwhelmed at the sheer volume of waste created for this annual tradition. I watch handfuls of candy go into each child’s bag sometimes. I know this might not apply to everyone, but many of the parents I know do not let their kids eat all of this. So, it either goes directly in the trash or Switch Witch takes it or it sits in a drawer for months until it finally ends up in the trash. On the whole, it seems more and more parents have become label readers. Ingredients like corn syrup, Red 40, Blue 1, palm oil, and more are found in almost every candy and are often things parents like to avoid. 

So, we’ve got either food waste or, for those who do want to consume the candy, there’s sometimes litter, teeth issues, and, of course, health issues. Also, because of the bite-sized amounts given, there is waaay more packaging used than would normally be used for candy.

All around, the whole thing really bums me out. Besides, I’m personally not a fan of the GIMME, entitled, MORE, MORE attitude that is associated with trick-or-treating. But, what to do? As a parent, I know, I feel stuck. I want my kids to be able to participate in holiday activities, and, unfortunately, this sometimes means dealing with all the wasteful candy.

REDUCE

The best way to reduce the candy waste is to either <gasp!> not trick-or-treat, or find less wasteful alternatives to hand out. The tricky part with that, of course, is A)How do you dictate what is given out? and B) What is a good alternative, since cheap, plastic trinkets are no better than the candy waste?

Sometimes in trick-or-treating situations, it isn’t even other parents handing out the candy. I find that most parents of young children understand how we don’t want to be bombarded with a sugar-y mess. I find the most “generous” candy givers are older. They are sentimental about the tradition and have either over-purchased candy that they don’t want to keep around and/or are truly trying to give the kids candy do something kind. So, the reducing part of this can get tricky… One of the best ways is with awareness. Maybe through articles or other means, we can start to spread the word and try to figure out alternatives to the candy overload. 

If your church or organization is involved in a Trunk-or-Treat, maybe you can gently suggest candy alternatives. If you or someone you know is heading up organizing a trick-or-treat at shops, maybe you can talk to the shop owners about this. At your own home, you, of course, have control over what you pass out, but I’m wondering if house-to-house trick-or-treating is even done as much with all the other options out there. 

So, what are less wasteful alternatives? As I mentioned, cheap, plastic toys are definitely not the answer. Those cheap bubble containers or mini whistles or spy glasses or anything purchased in bulk are usually things kids take one look at and then never think about again. Or they break after about 20 minutes. And they end up in the trash. Ugh. And things like glow sticks are so horrible for the environment. 

So, what wouldn’t end up being wasteful? You can Google “Halloween candy alternatives” and see what comes up, but a lot of times the plastic trinkets will be what you see. Some alternatives that sounded promising to me were local honey sticks, homemade play dough in reusable containers, hot chocolate packets, stickers, mini figs, coloring pages (you can print these out yourself), a small bag of craft supplies and instructions, homemade clay Halloween pins, or homemade small Halloween finger puppets.  Obviously, none of these are zero-impact, but I think it’s a start in rethinking old traditions.  

If you’re holding a Halloween event with a small group, you can each bring a homemade treat and set up mini booths shaped like houses to pass the treats out to the kids. 

Instead of passing out candy at a Trunk-or-Treat, maybe people could collect photos of their kids at each station or the kids could do a small craft at each station. Or there could even be supplies out at each car so the kids could participate in the actual decorating. 

At a harvest festival, you could charge a small admission and maybe the kids could play games for tickets and then trick-or-treat at small “shops” and decide what they’d like to buy with their tickets. That way you can buy higher quality items and the kids would be choosing things they want (and “earning” them).

This whole thing is, pardon the pun, tricky. At the very least, just start to become more aware. If someone tries to plunk a whole fistful of candy into your child’s bag and you know it won’t get eaten, politely refuse and ask for just one, please. Don’t overbuy candy for your own home if you know it doesn’t get passed out or eaten. If you really feel you “need” candy for passing out, but you never go through a whole bag, share with a neighbor. 

Look for candy with the least amount of packaging and the least amount of offensive ingredients. Maybe opt for crackers or pretzels or organic candies instead of the brands or foods that are overflowing in corn syrup.

REUSE 

See if anywhere around town would be able to use any candy you won’t be consuming.

Candy wrappers can be made into many creative projects such as headbands, bracelets, barrettes, coin purses, decoupaging and more. Search “candy wrapper reuse projects” and see what you find.

RECYCLE? 

Candy wrappers are not usually recyclable, unfortunately. You can look into programs like this one from Terracycle or this one from Rubicon though.

ENDING THOUGHTS 

As I mentioned in the pumpkin waste post, changing traditions, especially very established holiday traditions, is tough. But, part of being human and being on this planet is changing our ways as we gain new information. So, I really don’t mean to be the Bah Humbug of Halloween here, but I think it’s time to start speaking out and thinking differently about our approach to trick-or-treating. I’m sooo far from having the magic answer on this one, but I think it’s something to start talking about.

Thank you, as always, for being here. Your actions can and will make a difference.